CONDITIONS

We've come to terms with a dating reality - though some things aren't preferred, we'll cut our dates some slack and we hope they'll cut us some too.


Things we're cool with:

• Less than ideal height/age/marital status (aka divorced or separated)
• Lack of style (as long as it's not really bad and they're clean!)
• Awkward conversations via email, phone or in-person (let's face it, dating is awkward, fun but weird)

Things that aren't OK:

• Asking us out (when we've never spoken or met) on a first date via text, call us pleeeease
• Extreme lateness (A guy we had coffee with last weekend, at a place supposedly two blocks from his house, was 35 minutes late!)
• Weird texts from guys we barely know. For example: I have a heart-on for Mondays. Yes, we actually got this text from the the above late guy post-date. Was that supposed break the ice? How do you even respond?

Questions of the day:

• What is it with people and texting? Is it just us or should texting early in a "relationship" be limited to "How r u?" And "Thnx 4 last night." types of texts?
• What types of dating behavior and date characteristics will you put up with and what are deal breakers?

MISS DECISIVE

OK, we've decided to Match it up again. So far, it's been pretty fun. No dates yet, but lots of good conversation with seemingly normal, interesting guys. Except this one. 


Email a few days ago from Match Guy:
Have you met your Jewish prince yet?


Uh, no! Why else would we be on an online dating site? We check out his stats.


Age: 37 (check)
Location: Beaverton, OR (wait a minute, just mapped this and it's over three hours from our house!)


We decide that the distance and question-that-doesn't-really-prompt-good-conversation puts this guy in the no category. We don't respond.


A few days later we get another email from Match Guy.


Subject: Hmmmmm
Email: Guess so :-)


Wait a minute. What is the point of that? Is he trying to call us out for not responding? Is there etiquette for dating websites that is above and beyond real life? (We can't even begin to count how many guys who have asked for our number and never called. But we're not sweating it. We don't call them and say "Why haven't you called?" It's part of the deal, right?)


Should we have been more open-minded and written back to him in the first place? Or were our instincts right and this guy is a weirdo?

DRESSED TO IMPRESS

We have a date tonight and are pretty excited. It's at our fave neighborhood pub (inspired food, delicious local beers and the perfect first date environment) and today's going to be super-sunny and hot. So we're having major outfit dilemmas. We want to wear a dress, but not be to dressy, booby, etc. 


Staring at our closet and not feeling very inspired. Wish we could have one of these...

We'd wear it with gold gladiators (flats) and simple jewelry. Maybe throw on our very favorite jeans-jacket.

Especially love the sweet one on the top-right. Styled with navy wedge espadrilles (TOMS if we were splurging) and our Kimberly Baker peacock earrings.


And this one just screams sexy summer.

We're on a budget so won't be buying anything and will probably settle on a black maxi dress, denim jacket with silver Birkenstocks and rocking-silver-chain bracelet. Maybe add a summer-weight scarf for "modesty."


What is your perfect summer date outfit?


PHOTOS:
1 and 3 Clothesure
2 Zachary's Smile via i am a greedy girl

ALL FIGURED OUT

The other night we were at a bar with a friend and saw someone familiar. First we thought it might be the lead singer of Maroon 5, but it turned out it was a guy we'd actually met before. Check it:


On Wednesday nights, we have a favorite place for trivia. A local Aussie and Kiwi bar. It's the best. We go to hang out with friends, but sometimes we meet guys...


Once we ended up sitting next to a guy at the bar and we talked a bit. He asked for our number which surprised us because he didn’t seem that interested (or nice), but we figured why not? 

We’ll tell you why not. (Why don't we ever learn this lesson?)

On Friday afternoon he called. He asked what we were up to and if we wanted to hang out that night. We had plans to go to a small classical concert downtown and invited him. We were going solo - why not turn it into a date? He said he needed to figure out what he was up to and he’d call back.

Wait, wasn't "figuring it out" what we were doing? We said, “OK. Give us a call later.” What else do you say?

He called back when we were headed to the concert. He was contemplating joining, but was hedging. We suggested a drink afterward. He said, “Why don’t you give me a call after and we can figure things out then?”

Um… OK? Why not just make plans now? The concert would be shortf! We really don’t care anymore. He’s annoying and immature. Was he honestly still trying to line up the perfect Friday night? Hitting the clubs. Partying ‘til dawn. Really? And was in his late 30s.

For some reason, after the show we call him back. Don’t want to be rude. Silly girl.

The conversation goes something like this:


Us: “Hi. Are you still up for getting a drink?”


Indecision Boy: “I don’t know…”


Us: “OK… Leaving the show now and heading home so…”


Indecision Boy: “It’s just that I sort of have this thing going on…with this other girl.”


Us: “Uh…” (What?!!!? Why are you cruzin' bars?)


Indecision Boy: “She’s in school and she’s away right now. We're OK to see other people, but I don’t know if I want to do that. I mean I am really into her and she might come back to Seattle eventually. But on the other hand I’m really not into long distance relationships. I mean, have you ever heard of them working out? What do you think?"


Us: (OMG – are we really having this conversation? When did we become Dr. Phil?) “ Sure. Sometimes. If it’s meant to be and there is something real there, then yes, it can work out.”


Indecision Boy: “Hmmm… yeah. I don’t know.”


Us: “Well. It sounds like you have some stuff to figure out. Call us if you make up your mind....” (Not really. Don't call us. Ever. Ya freakshow.) 

Wonder if his long distance relationship worked out...he was alone at the bar on Saturday.