June 22, 2010


We had another strange interaction with a guy recently. No date. Just emails. It seemed to start with a miss-communication, but then spiraled into something angry...

You decide.

Subject: Wondering why most of you look but don't write.
My name is Matt. You look willing to answer.

I usually write to introduce myself. Dating is not a priority right now but I figured I might as well ask somebody this question and see what happens. Are most women so invested in being found by the right guy that spending a few minutes on a hello seems out of the ordinary?

Have a good weekend,


Our Response: 
Hi Matt,

You pose an interesting question. Our thought is that girls may look but not write for the same reason that many guys look at our profiles but don't contact us -- once viewing a person's profile we may not find that "something" that interests us. For the most part, if someone does contact us, we try to respond in some way. What are your thoughts? Do you make contact with each person whose profile you look at? If not, why?

We also have another question for you -- if dating is not a priority, why are you on Match? A girlfriend of ours was on this site a couple of years ago, and this came up with one guy she was emailing.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Chop Suey
His Response:
If I'm interested at all then I write. I can't help you there. I'm on a dating site because I can't turn off my biology regardless of my priorities and would overcome my current circumstances for the right person. 2009 was the toughest year of my adult life and my "type" would not need explanation, I hope. If you're just wanting input and don't see what value there might be in getting to know me, happy hunting and take care.
Our Response: 
Well, we apologize if we misunderstood the intent of your first email. Typically if someone is interested in getting to know us and emails us here, "dating is not a priority" is usually not part of the email. After reading your email, we truly thought that you were looking for input.

Best of luck to you in your search.

1 comment:

Saltina said...

People are just plain weird. I don't get it.